Community Guidelines

The short version

Show up as yourself. Take the answer you're given. Don't make anyone regret being open here. Eighteen or older.

That's most of it. The rest is specifics — and the specifics are binding, so they're worth the three minutes.

What these protect

Here's what Asaya runs on: real photos. Saying what you're actually looking for. A no that doesn't need dressing up. Telling someone something true at an event because the room made it feel possible.

All of that is a risk, and people only keep taking it where it's protected. That's what these guidelines are for — not to teach anyone manners, but to keep the risk worth taking.

How this place works

Show up as yourself. Recent photos, accurate age, one account. The person who sits down at the event should be the person from the profile.

Take the answer. Make the first move — that's what this is for. Then read what comes back: Enthusiasm is an answer; hesitation is an answer; a conversation that's gone quiet is an answer. Nobody gets removed from Asaya for making a move. People get removed for what they do after the answer comes back.

Your type is your business. How you treat everyone else is ours. Attraction doesn't need defending, and nobody owes anyone theirs. But slurs, demeaning stereotypes, and contempt aimed at what someone is — racism, antisemitism, Islamophobia, misogyny, homophobia, transphobia, ableism — end accounts here. A preference is who you match with, not a license for how you treat everyone else.

What's shared here stays here. People will tell you true things on Asaya — that's the point. Forwarded screenshots, traveling intimate images, someone's vulnerable disclosure turned into content: using what a person shared with you to expose, embarrass, or endanger them, on the app or off it, is treated as seriously as anything on this page. Discretion is what makes that possible.

The rules

Everything above assumes good faith. What follows is for when that assumption breaks.

Worth saying plainly first: awkwardness is not a violation. Incompatibility is not a violation. Changing your mind is not a violation. This list is what violations actually look like — and it applies on the app, at Asaya events, and to anything done with information obtained through either.

1. Deception and impersonation.

   You may not impersonate another person, use materially misleading photos, falsify your age or identity, or run fake or duplicate accounts.

2. Harassment and coercion.

   You may not intimidate, shame, badger, or pressure another person, or keep contacting someone after they've made their disinterest clear or asked for distance. Guilt, fear, leverage, and persistence are not tools for getting attention, conversation, intimacy, or a meeting.

3. Sexual misconduct.

   Unwanted sexual remarks, unsolicited explicit content, pressure toward sexual activity, repeating a request after a refusal, and any sexual behavior that disregards consent are prohibited.

4. Threats, stalking, and violence.

   You may not threaten, stalk, dox, blackmail, or surveil anyone, or use Asaya — or anything learned through it — to make a person feel unsafe, online or off.

5. Hate and degrading conduct.

   Slurs, hate speech, dehumanizing language, and identity-based harassment targeting race, ethnicity, nationality, religion, disability, gender, gender identity, or sexual orientation are prohibited.

6. Privacy violations.

   You may not share another person's private messages, intimate images, identifying details, or personal disclosures without consent in ways that expose, humiliate, retaliate against, or endanger them.

7. Scams, spam, and exploitative use.

   No fraud, phishing, financial solicitation, spam, follower harvesting, or treating Asaya as a funnel for something else you're selling.

8. Violent or graphic content.

   No graphic violence, celebration of cruelty, or imagery intended to shock or terrorize.

9. Adults only.

   You must be 18 or older to use Asaya. No exceptions.

10. Evading safety measures.

    You may not circumvent a block, return after suspension or removal under a new account, or use other channels to continue contact that was shut down here.

Reports

If something feels off, report it. That isn't an overreaction — it's the system working. Blocking takes effect immediately, and you don't owe anyone an exit interview.

We review every report with context and judgment. One report isn't an automatic verdict, and a pattern doesn't get ignored.

Consequences

Depending on severity, pattern, and risk: content removal, warnings, restricted features, suspension, removal from events, permanent bans, and — where it belongs there — referral to law enforcement.

Violence, threats, stalking, coercive sexual behavior, sexual exploitation, credible safety risk, and severe identity-based abuse can mean immediate removal. Some conduct doesn't get a warning.